Why Can’t I Get Pregnant?
You have been attempting to conceive for a few months. And you are now three days late and feeling pangs of nausea. Could it be happening this time? Could you be pregnant? The only way to find out is to get tested. You run over to the drug store to grab a pregnancy test, and lo and behold, it is negative again. Then hours later, your period starts. How disappointing. You were taught all along in high school and before that to practice safe sex in order to avoid contracting STIs and STDs, as well as avoiding pregnancy. And now that you are ready to get pregnant, you are struggling to make that happen.
Why were you told as a teenager to avoid something that apparently is not coming easily to you in adulthood? Pregnancy sounds like it should happen easily. All you have to do is have sex, then the sperm comes into the fallopian tubes to meet the egg, and then pregnancy will result, right? Well, technically yes, but attaining a pregnancy is, unfortunately, a lot more involved than that scenario alone. Because of the fact that it is so involved, there are plenty of factors that could be coming into play as to why you are unable to conceive - at this time anyway. Let's take a look at those common factors as to why you are not getting pregnant.
1. You Have Not Been Trying Long Enough
Some couples are so lucky that they achieve pregnancy on the first try. However, that is the exception and not the rule. You need patience and if you have been trying for less than a year, then you cannot panic yet. That is if you are under 35 years old. If you are over 35 years old, then you will want to see the doctor if you have not conceived within six months. You need to give it time. Some couples achieve a pregnancy within the first month of trying. Others attain it after three or six months of trying. Give it some time.
2. You Are Not Tracking Your Cycles
If you are not tracking your cycles and you do not know when you are ovulating, then that is a big reason as to why you are not getting pregnant. You must track your cycles and know when you are ovulating through taking your basal body temperature, using ovulation prediction kits, and checking the consistency of cervical mucus. At the very least, you must know how long your cycles are and if they are regular. If you determine when you ovulate and the length of your cycles, you should get pregnant relatively quickly. But even then there is no guarantee which will be discussed a little later.
3. You Are Having Sex Daily
If you are having sex every day, then firstly, you are tired. And if you are tired, you are not going to be functioning properly and your overall health won't be optimal. That can hinder proper hormone production as well. However, the biggest issue with daily sex is that your partner's sperm count will be so depleted that there won't be any swimmers around or strong enough to fertilize the egg. You could be ready to ovulate and your partner could be shooting blanks as a result of the daily sex. Have sex every other day instead of a week after your period right up until you ovulate. That will increase your odds of getting pregnant.
4. Your Diet And Weight Are Preventing A Pregnancy From Happening
Are you eating too much junk food such as processed foods, sugar, and trans fats, or are you just not eating enough? Are you extremely underweight, or do you struggle with obesity? Those factors will hinder your chances of conception because your hormone production is not up to par. What you need to do is to hire a dietician to help you eat the right foods that are fertility-friendly and also help you attain an acceptable weight as well. It does not have to be at the optimal weight, but you should not be far off on either side either.
5. You Exercise Too Much Or Not Enough
If you are a couch potato, then your circulation is not strong and that has a negative effect on your hormonal production. You need some exercise in order to get that going and to improve your health. On the flip side, exercising too much can also hinder your chances of getting pregnant because it stresses out the body. What you need to do is lift light weights daily and take a half-hour brisk walk for at least five days a week. That will help keep your body healthy and functioning properly.
6. You Are Too Stressed And You Cannot Sleep
Stress does a lot of damage if it is not controlled properly. You produce too much cortisol which can hinder proper hormone production and can cause weight gain. You cannot avoid stress in life, but you need to learn to manage it so you don't become a victim of it. If you are extremely stressed, that can affect your sleep and you need from 6 to 9 hours of sleep to remain healthy. Learn yoga, meditation, and unwind at night by watching a good movie or reading a relaxing book. Listening to music helps as well. And keep your room dark at night so you can fall asleep quickly. Avoid taking in caffeine past 1 pm as well.
7. You Have Dangerous Habits
Do you smoke? Do you drink? Do you take recreational drugs? Those are the reasons that you are not conceiving. And if you do end up conceiving while you engage with those bad habits, it can be dangerous for the unborn baby. You need to quit all of those and that means working with your doctor to wean you off if you must.
8. He Is Not Taking Care Of His Swimmers
The problem may not be with you at all. If your partner is taking long hot showers and is wearing briefs with tight-fitting jeans, then the heat from all of that is killing off his swimmers. If he is smoking, drinking, and doing recreational drugs, that is also playing a role. He needs to take short lukewarm showers, wear loose-fitting cotton pants with boxers, and need to eat foods with a lot of zinc while ditching those habits to become a father to your baby sooner rather than later.
If you have made those adjustments and you are still not able to get pregnant in a 12-month period, or a 6-month period if you are over 35 - then you will need to take the next step. That is to make an appointment with your doctor for you and your partner to be checked. Then to refer you to a fertility specialist if necessary. However, before jumping ahead that far, make any adjustments listed here that you need to make. And hopefully, very soon after that, you will finally conceive!